Saturday, 21 December 2013

An Important Article

One of my Facebook friends shared this. It's important and it should be read.

http://intheparlor.wordpress.com/2013/12/19/what-you-believe-about-homosexuality-doesnt-matter/

7 comments:

Xochitl said...

A very interesting article, I think that the statement it makes it something everyone should think about- regardless of what 'side' they're on. Thanks for sharing :)

Hamlette said...

Definitely thought-provoking!

Personally, I believe homosexuality is a sin. I also believe that heterosexual sex outside marriage is a sin. And so is lusting after someone you are not married to. And so is stealing. And murder. And lying. And coveting. And using God's name in vain. And loving anything more than God -- even another person. And not honoring your parents. And not keeping the Sabbath holy. These are all sins. None of them is worse than another.

But you know what is NOT a sin? Being tempted. It is not a sin to feel tempted to do something wrong. It is only a sin to give in to that temptation. And this is where we run into so many problems. Is it a sin to be attracted to someone of the opposite gender? No. No more than it's a sin to be tempted to steal money, or to be tempted to hurt another person, or to be tempted to lie to get out of trouble. It's only a sin if you give in.

There's a saying that gets tossed around a lot: "Hate the sin, but love the sinner." I think we hear and see it so much, we forget what it means. Love the person who has given in to temptation, even as we do not condone what they have done. And if we love them, we will try to show them the error of their ways, so that they can repent, can "go and sin no more." Christ doesn't say, "Go, and be tempted no more." He says go and sin -- ie, give in to that temptation -- no more. Big difference.

A teen who's struggling with attraction to the the same sex -- they don't need to be condemned any more than a teen who's struggling with attraction to the opposite sex. And the sooner people realize this, the better.

extremely flammable said...

Amen to that! Truly much of the evil around us originates from self-righteous (albeit probably well meaning)persons casting judgement. God wisely told us that he is ultimately our only judge, probably because he knows we humans would make a pig's ear out of it. The world would be a happier and more harmonious place if we would keep our opinions to ourselves and concentrate our energies on being kind and gentle to others. I heartily believe it hurts God grievously when we treat people as "sinners who must change their ways or face our wrath." Rant over.

extremely flammable said...

Also, with the greatest respect Hamlette (I agree with almost everything that you said), but a person struggling with attraction to the same sex is not quite the same as a person attracted to the opposite sex, as heterosexual attraction can be sanctioned by marriage. Potentially a gay person is therefore condemned to a life of loneliness and family-lessness by some stricter doctrines. Surely therefore more deserving of compassion and understanding if they do fall into "sin"? Logically the more sinful you think homosexuality is, the kinder you should be to homosexuals! The more you should try to include them into your own spiritual family :)

Hannah said...

Hamlette - I agree with almost everything that you're saying but I'm going to have to agree with my friend here when it comes to homosexual attraction not being the same as heterosexual attraction. We shouldn't judge anyone of course but in our present climate it's very important that we don't judge homosexuals for choosing to have same-sex relationships. I can't even comprehend how big a sacrifice it must be to give up on a potentially loving and romantic relationship. It's a muuuch bigger sacrifice than most people have to make in their lives and I can understand why for some it would seem unbearable. As a young single woman I know that God might not choose to bless me with a husband but at least I know that romance and marriage is an option for me right now.

The Church, as a whole, need to be so much more compassionate and sensitive towards gay/lesbian/bisexual people and the choices that they make even if we don't agree with their choices. If we ever meet a troubled gay person we should be prepared to say something like "You know what, whatever you decide to do just know that I love you and I'm here for you". We need for them to see Jesus in ourselves. We need for them to want to be around us. When Jesus was having dinner with prostitutes and tax collectors he can't have preached at them the whole time. They would never have invited him back otherwise! :D

And we need to be so, so careful about the language we use. Even words that are well-meant could have a potentially traumatising effect on a self-loathing gay teenager. And I want to make sure that people I witness to don't die.

Banríon An Gheimhridh said...

Hannah, I cannot express in words exactly how much I appreciate your comment. All people deserve to be loved, no matter what.

I do not believe that homosexuality is a sin. I believe that every one deserves happiness and love. It makes no difference whether it is with someone of the same gender or not. I won't go much further on the topic since I know that you are all Christians and have certain views on the subject, and I don't wish to offend any of you. But I cannot tell you how hopeful your comment made me. After all, it was Jesus who expressed love and compassion for people who were so often despised and forsaken by society.

Hannah said...

Banrion - Aw, thank you! I'm really glad you appreciated it so much and I hope you have an amazing Christmas! :)